Changing Your Life
August 3, 2017
Let me ask you, does this sound familiar?
You are exhausted every single day, no matter what you do you can’t seem to find the skip in your step.
You look at yourself in the mirror, and you truly aren’t happy with the reflection.
Every time you try on something new, it just doesn’t fit the way it should…
In fact, just day to day living can be a harder task than it should be.
And let’s be honest here this isn’t the first time that you have thought, “enough is enough now is the time, I am going to make a change.”
“I am going to do something for me.”
It start’s off amazingly well — you love this change and the new lease on life you have.
The incredible thing is that it is working, the results are coming in.
You couldn’t be happier, and then it happens…
The method you have chosen isn’t feasible to maintain long term,
Commitments pop up.
You miss one day.
Then a week.
And before you know it, not only are you back to where you started, you are worse off than before.
Does this sound familiar?
If so, you are not alone.
This is one of the most common stories I here.
And it’s not your fault…
A lot of programs and fitness fads are designed this way to ensure that you keep coming back. Because if you don’t need them, how would they make money?
But good news, I have the solution for you.
Today I am going show you the best way to structure everything out so that not only will you see results, but you can continue to move forward and maintain them long term.
Excellent, then let’s begin.
Begin With The End In Mind
Before you do anything, before you join a gym, buy equipment, throw out all the food in the house, any of those things lets begin with the end in mind.
What does this mean?
It means: setting goals.
I bet you didn’t know there is a right and a wrong way to set goals?
A goal without a deadline is just a dream.
How about we set some goals then.
The thing you need to remember when setting goals is the following; It must be measurable, definable, achievable and have a definitive end point.
Let’s start with measurable.
Some of the most common goals are:
I want to lose weight
I want to get healthy, or I want to be fit
I want to lose my love handles, lose my tuck shop lady arms (or a variation on this, I have heard at least 20 different names for arms), to tone up…
The list goes on.
These are excellent goals and something that absolutely can be achieved and should be aiming for.
But how do you define them?
If you lose 100g, technically you hit your goal.
If your stomach shrinks a millimeter, you have succeeded.
But have you?
Or worse yet, be healthy.
How do you define being healthy, the fact that you started exercising means that you are healthier than you were, but is that where you wanted to be?
Do you see where I am going with this?
We need to make sure that you know the specific outcome and they can be measured.
This is for two reasons:
1. If you can’t know and celebrate your achievements, it becomes a long and arduous road to stay motivated and keep moving forward.
2. How can you course correct if you don’t know where you are going?
So now you know how important measurable is and that also pretty much covers definable as well, let’s move onto achievable.
Within reason, anything is achievable given the right tools, work ethic, and time frame.
But determining the time frame is important.
I have had multiple truly incredible clients who have lost over 40kgs, but this didn’t happen overnight.
It takes time, patience and consistency.
But this doesn’t always happen; there is this thing that happens every year.
Usually around the September, October mark.
I get people coming in and say something along the lines of I am doing X in 4-8 weeks, and I need to lose 20+kgs and be swimsuit ready.
And I just kind of give them the face, the face that says “this is a joke right?”
Now don’t get me wrong big weight loss turnarounds in short periods of time are possible.
But there is a catch:
1. It’s often super extreme and not healthy (when talking 20kgs in 4 weeks) think the biggest loser style. It is a crime that show exists.
2. Often when coupled with an individual event it means as soon as you hit the goal you throw everything you have been doing in the bin if there is no plan to maintain. Which often results in a substantial backslide, and putting the weight on. (Reason why I hate the biggest loser, across all countries that it has been run in less than 10 people have actually kept the weight off. That is criminal!)
So setting realistic goals, will not only prevent these problems but will also keep you motivated to keep moving forward and reaching your goals.
And don’t get it twisted — I believe in quick results, I have a 10 day meltdown program which standard turn around is 3+kgs in the 10 days. But I have stringent follow-up protocols that must be followed post-meltdown to ensure that there is no backsliding.
Finally, let’s talk end point.
You must have a deadline that you must achieve your goal by.
I can not stress this one enough.
Because if there is no deadline, it becomes too easy just to say I’ll do it tomorrow.
This can be made even more efficient if you can add a why or consequence to that deadline to hold you accountable.
Sometimes that is as simple as telling someone important to you that you will achieve X by said date.
When choosing a deadline, I always prescribe a 90 day outcome, because past 90 days and it is to far in the future and can be put off, less than that means that things can go wrong and there is no time to course correct, plus it can make it super daunting.
So 90 days, with at least 30-day checkpoints along the way to make sure that you are on track.
So let’s put this all together now.
Here is an example:
I want to lose 6 inches off my stomach and hips, and 3 inches off my arms and legs in the next 90 days.
That means I will have lost 2 inches off my stomach and hips and 1 inch off my arms in 30 days, if not I will evaluate what I am doing and adjust accordingly.
Now this is something that is trackable and has a clear outcome and end date. This is a great goal. Plus it will show clear results to keep you motivated.
And you may be looking at this and going that doesn’t seem like much of a change, but I promise you this would change your world. These kind’s of changes in body composition usually equate to 2-3 dress sizes and a complete change in outlook.
Remember achievable and yet still getting you to where you want to be.
What’s The Meaning?
This is a big one and is often overlooked.
If you have no meaning behind your goals, no why, I can pretty much guarantee that you will quit before you get to the end.
Because I am not going to sugar coat it, transforming your life is hard work, it takes commitment, effort and motivation to keep going no matter what.
That is why your why matters.
Because when it gets hard if there is nothing there to motivate you, you will just call it a day.
Now this is one that you have to find all on your own, because I can’t tell you what is important to you, what will motivate you to make a change.
But it can range from fitting into that little black dress you have had your eye on,
It could be feeling comfortable in your own skin,
It could be feeling sexy and beautiful,
It could be for your kids or grandkids,
It could be a holiday coming up, and you want to be in a particular shape for it.
It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it has meaning to you. But the deeper the meaning, the more likely you are to succeed.
When it comes to my clients I am very picky about who I take on, because I want to make sure that you are willing to do the work and are going to commit to making your goals a reality.
Because you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.
So one of the questions I ask someone before they are invited to join our family is “Why is this important to you right now?”
One of the answers I got once was, my grandson came to me the other day and gave me a hug and said: “Nana I can’t get my arms around you, I don’t want you to die.”
My jaw hit the floor. I couldn’t believe it. This was a woman who had a why and I knew that she would do anything in her power to make it happen.
This was the type of woman I wanted to work with for two reasons.
1. I knew she was all in and would go the extra mile.
2. In helping this incredible woman, I could change the lives of a whole family.
I knew at that moment that I had to do everything in my power to help her achieve her goals.
So really think about this, what is your why?
Why are you ready to change?
Once you have worked this out, write it down.
And post it somewhere you will see every single day so that you are always reminded of why you must achieve your goals.
And I promise you when it get’s hard, you will find a way to push through and keep moving forward.
So, that’s it for today. When I started writing this I was going to cover so much more but I realized that these are the things that needed to be discussed first.
These were too important to skip over.
So I am breaking this up into multiple parts.
So tune back in on Saturday for part two.
But first and foremost take action on these today.
Before you do anything, write out 2-3 clear-cut goals using the method above and write down your reason why.
Then look at this everyday, and I promise you will be well on your way to achieving them.
And if you don’t want to do it for yourself, do it for me.
Because I want you to succeed, and once you do, please let me know about your incredible results. It’s why I do this, to change lives.
So thank you for taking part today, I truly appreciate you.
Until next time,
Lachlan “Start From The End” Farley
P.S If you know that now is the time to change and you want someone to take care of all the grunt work and show you the quickest and easiest way to make it happen.
Then book a Transformation call today, here we will go over everything and will determine if you are a fit for our family and how we can help you achieve goals you couldn’t have dreamt of.
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